Mature Dating

Mature dating means recognizing goodness, taking hold of it, and enjoying it more than ever. No more fooling around. No more pearls for pigs!

Bounders and Lairs

I spent several years barhopping with cads. You may remember a TV show back in the aughts, called The Pickup Artist. I brushed shoulders with all those guys. I attended a party at the Hollywood Hills home of Neil Strauss, the guy who wrote the Bible for cads; a book I still recommend, called The Game. 

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Because it’s loaded with useful information for both sexes. And it can be used for purposes both good and evil; just like the Bible itself.

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I sat next to Mystery at a club on the Sunset Strip, watching him game a girl, generating in the process dozens of IOIs (that is, Indicators Of Interest); such as giggles and blushes and hairflips. You see, once you get a girl on the hook, all you gotta do is let nature take its course. She’ll come to you and do most of the work.

I spent two years organizing seminars and other appearances for Dr. Paul Dobransky; in Chicago, New York, Los Angeles, and London. When we weren’t teaching men and women how to walk up to each other and say hi, Dr. Paul and I and our lair of bounders (based in Chicago) barhopped four days a week.

Comedy and Sex

A few years before all this, I went through the comedy writing program at Second City. Great stuff. Year-long program. Writing a new scene every week. Producing an original show at the end of the year.

The whole thing was geared for developing TV sitcom writers. And guess what — the thing I most learned from that experience was that I didn’t want to be a TV sitcom writer. I wanted to do what I’m doing now; which is producing my own material on my own platform.

And that’s the kind of epiphany I got outta my barhopping adventures. I didn’t wanna be a lothario, either. I wanted to be a better man. The kind of man that good women were naturally attracted to.

Yeah, I learned how to pickup chicks. Finally! In my forties. Nobody taught me these things when I was younger.

Sexual power comes naturally to women. Men have to work for it. And work for it I did!

Tap Dancing For Kisses

What a colossal waste of time! Chatting up young women in bars for the privilege of making out with them in dark corners. Or getting their numbers and exchanging sassy texts for the next few hours. Or getting them into bed and finding that 99 out of 100 of them have nothing interesting to say. I wish I’d learned all this stuff in my teens and twenties, like everyone else.

Nevertheless, learn I did, finally, that there are two types of dating. There’s mature dating; which is what we do once cheap sex wears out it’s welcome. Everything else is just fooling around.

Not that there’s anything wrong with fooling around. Most of us are brought into the world through fooling around. Not the best of conditions; but a reality, nevertheless.

One Of Us

What does it mean to be the kind of man who naturally attracts good women? And what the heck is a good woman?

These are complicated questions. Because the fields of evolutionary biology and pickup artistry both tell us that the kind of man who naturally attracts women of any kind is often a menace to society. And let me tell you, gentlemen — from many years of embarrassing experiences — unless you’re born a bad boy, don’t bother pretending to be one.

Where does that leave the rest of us; those of us who value maturity? Well, if you’re truly one of us — that is, if you’re done with fooling around — then you’re in the best possible place to enjoy the finest sexual encounters life has to offer.

Mature dating means, first of all, seizing opportunities.